remembrance

Rosemary for remembrance

Rosemary for remembrance

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Rosemary for remembrance: Rosemary is a herb with great symbolism and significance depending on who you are – it is a symbol of the Anzacs, the name of my Aunty and great Aunty, the herb we placed with photos on my Croatian grandfather’s grave that went into the earth with him, a beautiful plant in my mother’ garden and the quintessential herb for Aussie lamb.

It’s aroma means different things to different people, but above all it is an aroma which invokes memories. For me, the reminder of the Anzac long weekend makes me think of my mate Amanda and the sorrow she must feel with all her fallen comrades, and the birthday of an ill friend Julie. It’s also the birthday on the 23rd of my Aunty Joy and my cousin Kim. And then the memory that most years I am able to forget- the memory of my wedding weekend.

Lest we forget how bittersweet life is, that life is for service above self, and that through aroma we can unlock and create memories to behold for the future.

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Anger after divorce

Angry?

Angry.  This morning I lost my temper after receiving a text message from my ex husband. The circumstances are not what is important, however, what surprised me, was that after 6 years, I am still emotionally triggered by certain things that he does. And today, was a storm in a tea-cup. I was ready with the blame and the frustration and the anger, and for once, it was not water off a duck’s back. That’s life isn’t it. Feelings creep up on you, and unresolved they explode, if you are not mindful of them.

Often in the middle of a disturbing emotion, we lose sense of perspective and objectivity. Anger is a message that one of our fundamental values has been compromised, and it insults and irritates us. The extent to which it does, sometimes correlates to the extent of our anger. Other times, its a lack of sleep, distraction and misinterpretation, and those stories we have in our head.  You know the ones that go like this.

I can’t believe he said that!

What does he think I am?

How selfish!

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It’s his son for xxx sake.

What a stingy bastard.

 

Now the above may or may not be true, but it is also possible that what was said, was simply interpreted in your mind according to your perspective, and isn’t what they meant at all. A good test is to show or explain to an impartial person and if they say, no, I don’t think they meant that, then it is highly likely that you overreacted. Don’t shame yourself over it. Just learn from the experience.

There is nothing wrong with anger as an emotion, and repressing it serves no purpose other than to create mental and physical disharmony. However, we need to find ways to become mindful of our anger as it rises, so that we can find ways to express it and then move forward.

For me, if I can be mindful enough to access my essential oils, I can calm down fast enough to change my perspective, get a little space and not overreact.

Next month on my order I’m getting Cardamom essential oil, how about you?

 

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For further information about navigating emotions like anger after a divorce, please visit this page, which includes examples of blends you can use to help you with anger and other turbulent emotions.

 

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The power of a sensory routine

The power of a sensory routine

Our modern lives are so busy and filled with deadlines and activities that it doesn’t take much to begin to feel stressed and a little anxious. Couple this with our expectations of perfection, exacerbated by our friend’s seemingly perfect lives on Instagram and Facebook, and it doesn’t take long to feel like our family is the only one which is disorganised, shouty and messy, and that we should be doing a better job with the kids, our marriage and our lives.  Heck it feels stressful just writing those sentences. Based on my personal experiences over the past few years, I highly recommend every family examine implements a sensory routine in their lives. I believe a sensory routine is actually a recipe for sanity!

Here’s what we do in our household, and it helps! Why not try it in yours?
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sensory routine

sensory routine

sensory routine

 

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sensory routine

 

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If you would like to find out more contact me, or if you are ready to purchase these wonderful essential oils and a diffuser click here.  Please do not use a tea light candle diffuser as the heat destroys the therapeutic benefits of the essential oils and you are left with just a pretty smell.

 

 

Soundtrack of a divorce

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There are songs that haunt us, by the very fact that they seem to look right into our hearts, and upon inspection, rip them apart. How is it, that someone you have never met, can understand exactly how you feel? How can the universe present you with a song, at a pertinent time in your life, that mirrors exactly how you feel, captures your raw emotions, and yet also helps with a little piece of healing, in the mere fact of the recognition of your suffering.

Adele was in Brisbane this weekend. It seems that everyone went, including many of my friends, and their daughters. A beautiful moment for mothers and daughters celebrating a rite of passage; a first concert together, and a shared love of a gorgeous and talented, emotive musician.  I watched with envy the Facebook and Instagram posts. But tonight, I realised, an Adele concert even now, is still too raw for me.

You see 21, was the soundtrack of my separation and divorce. Just like millions of others, who identify with the raw pain and heartbreak that Adele captures so magnificently, Adele captured my heartbreak.

21 was the first album that I purchased after leaving our marriage. We moved to a tiny house overlooking a lake, which was surrounded by rolling hills, mist and green dairy pastures. And as we drove each day from our lake house, to town, and down the long windy road to kindy we sang. My two year old, four year old, and I sang out loud to the words of Rolling in the Deep.

My children knew the song, by the first few beats. They looked forward to it, knowing somehow, that mummy loved the song, that it was the only time that she sang out loud, and that somehow, it brought a release.  Somehow, the words of a song, sung by someone else, gave flight to the emotions contained within.

I stayed until I could no more. I unravelled to my very core trying to save that marriage. I gave birth to the guilt that accompanied leaving.

He found solace in another woman’s arms fours weeks later, and has had partners ever since.

I never wanted to go back, it was done. But my heart has been sticky taped ever since.

I have hated him, forgiven him, embraced his new partners, gone out of my way to be the perfect ex-wife, and mostly, not forgiven myself.

We could have had it all.

But we didn’t.

It’s time to find a new song, to open my heart again, and create a future which has it all, this time, with a love song.

 

 

TerraArmour

TerraArmour repellant blend

TerraArmour Buy one Get Tea Tree Essential Oil Free

TerraArmour essential oil is today’s BOGO (Buy one get one free) special.  (Wednesday 22nd February 2017). When it comes to outdoor protection, there is no better defense than Mother Nature’s offerings. Among these are essential oils which provide a vapour barrier for plants, protecting them from potential threats in their environment. TerraArmour Outdoor Blend contains powerful essential oils and other plant oils known to provide outdoor protection in a natural, safe way. This newly updated formula contains a select blend of essential oils including Ylang Ylang, Cedarwood, Catnip, Lemon Eucalyptus, Litsea, Arborvitae, Nootka, and Vanilla Bean Absolute—all of which possess specific chemical compounds known to protect against environmental annoyances. The addition of Tamanu oil provides added support and through doTERRA’s Co-Impact Sourcing®, the harvesting of Tamanu oil is positively affecting the livelihood of harvesters in Madagascar. Now available in both a 15mL bottle and new 30mL sprayer, TerraArmour Outdoor Blend is a powerful yet safe formula that can be used by every member of the family, outdoors and throughout the home.

Uses

  • Apply TerraShield to the legs, arms, and neck before going outdoors or diffuse on your patio.
  • Take TerraShield on camping trips or to outdoor events.
  • Spray TerraShield around your door, window seals, and tent.

Directions for Use

Diffusion: Use three to four drops in the diffuser of your choice.
Topical use: Apply to desired areas before outdoor activity. Reapply every few hours as needed.

Cautions

Possible skin sensitivity. Keep out of reach of children. If you are pregnant, nursing, or under a doctor’s care, consult your physician. Avoid contact with eyes, inner ears, and sensitive areas.

Primary Benefits

  • Acts as an effective, natural repellent.
  • Can be used safely by everyone in the family.

Ingredients

Ylang Ylang Flower, Nootka Wood, Cedarwood Wood, Catnip, Lemon Eucalyptus, Litsea Fruit, Arborvitae Wood essential oils and Vanilla Bean Absolute in a base of Fractionated Coconut Oil and Tamanu Seed Oil.

Aromatic Description

Herbaceous, pungent, floral

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TerraArmour

 

TerraArmour

 Tea Tree Essential Oil:

Description

More commonly known as “Tea Tree,” Melaleuca essential oil has over 92 different compounds and limitless applications. The leaves of the Melaleuca tree were used by the Aborigines of Australia for centuries. They would crush the leaves and inhale the oil to promote feelings of clear breathing and apply the leaves directly to the skin for a cooling effect. Melaleuca is best known for its purifying properties. It can be used to cleanse and purify the skin and nails and to support a healthy complexion. Taken internally, Melaleuca promotes healthy immune function*, and Melaleuca can be used on surfaces throughout the home to protect against environmental threats. Melaleuca is frequently used on occasional skin irritations to soothe the skin and diffusing Melaleuca will help purify and freshen the air.

Uses

  • For occasional skin irritations, apply 1–2 drops of Melaleuca essential oil onto affected area.
  • Add 1–2 drops to water, citrus drinks, or veggie caps to support healthy immune system function.*
  • Combine 1–2 drops with your facial cleanser for added cleansing properties, or apply to skin after shaving.
  • Apply to fingernails and toenails after showering to purify and keeps nails looking healthy.
  • Add a few drops to a spray bottle with water and use on surfaces to protect against environmental threats.

Directions for Use

Diffusion: Use three to four drops in the diffuser of your choice.
Internal use: Dilute one drop in 4 fl. oz. of liquid.
Topical use: Apply one to two drops to desired area. Dilute with doTERRA Fractionated Coconut Oil to minimize any skin sensitivity.

Cautions

Possible skin sensitivity. Keep out of reach of children. If you are pregnant, nursing, or under a doctor’s care, consult your physician. Avoid contact with eyes, inner ears, and sensitive areas.

Statements with asterisks refer to internal use. All others refer to aromatic or topical use.

Primary Benefits

  • Renowned for its cleansing and rejuvenating effect on the skin
  • Promotes healthy immune function*
  • Protects against environmental and seasonal threats*

Aromatic Description

Herbaceous, green, leathery

Collection Method

Steam Distillation

Plant Part

Leaf

Main Constituents

Terpinen-4-ol, y-terpineneEmotional benefits of TerraArmour and Tea Tree Essential oils:

 

 

How to use TerraArmour and Tea Tree Essential Oil to protect yourself from toxic people, negative energy and relationships:

When we use essential oils aromatically we receive the therapeutic emotional benefits of the essential oils.  TerraArmour is the oil of shielding, which can be a powerful protector of your energy, especially when dealing with toxic and negative people. When we are surrounded by people in our workplace, or home who are angry, and jealous and only interested in negative talk, it can influence the way we think and feel. We can be drawn into drama and situations that we had no desire to create or facilitate. Sometimes just being around constantly negative people brings us down and we begin to feel and act the same way as these negative people. It’s important to shield yourself, by helping yourself to stay calm and grounded and clear in thought. The following video explains how you can use TerraArmour and Tea Tree essential oil to shield and repel negative energy from your life.

 

 

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spearmint essential oil

Buy Spearmint essential oil- get Peppermint free!

Spearmint Essential oil:

Spearmint essential oil is the oil of confident speech. The following video is an explanation of the therapeutic benefits of both Spearmint Essential oil and Peppermint Essential oil.

 

Today doTERRA is offering a buy one, get one free on Spearmint Essential oil and Peppermint Essential oil.

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Offer for today only: Tuesday 21st February 2017

 

If you purchase the Buy one Get one Free (BOGO) deal, let me know and I will put you in the daily draw for this.

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About Spearmint

Spearmint is a perennial plant that grows 11–40 inches tall and flourishes in temperate climates. It is widely used in gums, candies, and dental products for its minty taste, and to promote fresh breath. Spearmint has been used for centuries for its digestive benefits. Its sweet, refreshing aroma is cleansing and uplifting, making it ideal to evoke a sense of focus and positive mood. Spearmint is very different from Peppermint, making it a milder option to use on children and those with sensitive skin. In cooking, Spearmint is frequently used in salads, drinks, and desserts, but it can also be used to marinate meats. spearmint incentive

Uses of Spearmint Essential oil

  • Diffuse to uplift mood
  • Apply to toothbrush before brushing teeth for fresh breath
  • Add a drop or two to any dessert, drink, salad, or entrée for flavoring and to promote digestion*
  • For occasional stomach upset, add 1–2 drops to water and drink*

Directions for Use

Diffusion: Use three to four drops in the diffuser of your choice.
Internal use: Dilute one drop in 4 fl. oz. of liquid.
Topical use: Apply one to two drops to desired area. Dilute with doTERRA Fractionated Coconut Oil to minimize any skin sensitivity.

Cautions

Possible skin sensitivity. Keep out of reach of children. If you are pregnant, nursing, or under a doctor’s care, consult your physician. Avoid contact with eyes, inner ears, and sensitive areas.

Spearmint Essential Oil Cookies

 

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Love cookies? Then you’ll love this recipe. Ps, text me when you’ve finished baking- I like my tea white, no sugar 😉

 

Katische

Managing Emotions for parents of children

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Kids! Hamish has been such a joy and a source of frustration. Here’s a photo of him with a Tupperware bowl on his head…

Managing emotions for parents of small children

Being a parent is an emotional minefield. Suddenly you are in charge of a human being who is growing and developing and learning how to be a human. Babies, small children and toddlers do not have the logic and reason and emotional understanding that we do. Often it is frustrating being a parent- especially when a toddler is having a melt down. You can’t reason with them, as they just don’t understand.

Apart from navigating your child’s emotional development, there is your own emotional health to consider. You sleep less, don’t have much time for yourself, or your partner, sex goes out the window, and you never have time for yourself, even on the toilet or in the shower. Your child becomes your greatest love, biggest source of joy and at the same time the trigger of your emotions, tester of patience, source of frustration and sometimes things become overwhelming.

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This is a photograph I took of my son Hamish. He was wearing shoes for the first time and he did not like it. He threw an amazing tantrum and was hysterical. My rationale mind could not understand why he was upset. To me it was a big milestone because he was no longer ‘a baby’. To him, it felt strange and uncomfortable.

 

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I swear I just left him alone for a moment…

 

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Children are so curious. Everything becomes a source of fascination for them…

 

My friend Amelia once reminded me “put your own airbag on first Katische. The children will be fine if you are ok”.  This is a very important statement. No matter the age of your children, they will be fine and will learn to become resilient and able to cope with a wide range of emotions and situations, as long as you are ok. Children absorb the emotions that surround them. They are impacted by your emotional health, so the best thing you can do for them is to look after yourself, and understand how to navigate your own emotions.

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Angus took this photo when we were at Kindermusik. I think it was the first time I saw myself through his perspective. i was sad and mad a lot at that time in my life.

 

I’m running a class in  Brisbane next week to specifically address the topic. We will be examining the role of essential oils in managing emotions for parents, and also children. Parents of children of all ages are welcome.  My guest presenter is Lisa Coulson, registered Psychologist, and mother of two small children.

 

 

 

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We hope you’ll join us. Please register your interest in the event here.

 

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Naw, see they were so cute…

anger

Dealing with resentment

Resentment

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Resentment: Have you ever felt angry and resentful because you felt that someone misunderstood you? The kind of anger that wells up inside you and just explodes because you felt you have not been seen or heard by a particular person? A feeling of injustice that builds slowly over time and gains momentum and then something well intentioned tips you over the edge? Well, if so, you are not alone.

This weekend my anger reached tipping point and it boiled over due to a sense of injustice that I felt. I may be an adult, but I felt like jumping up and down and pounding my fists on the floor and crying with the injustice that this particular person had judged me incorrectly. I felt hopeless, and resigned to resentment. I felt as though there was nothing that I would be able to do now, or ever, to make this person understand me.

 

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And to be honest, how can another person every truly understand us? We present to the world, and certain people a cleverly screened image of ourselves. They can’t be inside our heads, or “monitor” our actions every day- so how do they know that their perceptions are based upon an “old” version of you? That you have changed, and yes, you were once like that, but that you have taken concrete actions to make changes in your life.

What I am grateful for is that I noticed the feeling of anger and resentment, and I reached out and calmed myself by talking with my coach and then with a friend who is a psychologist. I also noted that this feeling of resentment is a recurring theme in my life, because I feel angry but don’t want a confrontation with that person in the heat of the moment. So I stew on it. And as it stews and ferments in my insides, the thoughts become poisonous. But instead of being released and communicated and resolved, it then turns into a festing, fermenting mess in my insides.

Anger and resentment are a poison that we take hurts us. They are valid emotions, and we should not repress them, however, we need to learn how to process them in a positive manner.

So what did I do?

Yesterday, I put a beautiful peaceful blend of essential oils in my diffuser (Vetiver, Lavender, Ylang Ylang, Frankincense, Clary Sage, Marjoram, Labdanum and Spearmint) to help me stay calm during the evening.  At bedtime I put Ylang Ylang, Jasmine and a protective blend (Cinnamon, Clove, Eucalyptus, Rosemary and Orange) on my chest where my heart is and I had a great night’s sleep, whereas previously I may have tossed and turned.

 

Today….

This morning I put the same blend in my diffuser, and opened up my You Tube account and searched for a tapping video that would fit my needs. I chose this one. It was perfect, and made me cry, which was helpful in releasing the emotions. I also consulted my emotions and essential oils wheel and examined the negative emotions and found that when you feel unsupported Birch essential oil is recommended. I don’t have this oil so I kept looking, and came across Thyme, which is an oil which helps with resentment.

 

 

P.S It’s important to love yourself through this process. Every encounter we have in life that tests us, grows us. Sometimes we just have to realise that the enemy is within.

 

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If you’d like to know more on how essential oils can help support you with your emotions, please contact me– I can’t even pretend to be perfect when it comes to emotions, but I can tell you that I find them amazingly supportive 🙂

 

Katische