Need a little dating confidence?
Dating after divorce is both daunting and exciting. Unless you were born a supermodel we all could probably do with a little dating confidence. For many the prospect of getting naked with someone is overwhelming because they spent the last 5, 10 or 20 years with one person. For women who have given birth, there are new scars and marks to their body.
If I could offer myself some advice six years ago it would be- you are skinner and sexier than you think, and no one in the heat of the moment is looking at your faults. So stop obsessing about it. I would also remind myself, that other divorcees are also used to being with someone who is changed as a result of childbirth and life, so there is nothing that they haven’t seen before.
Here are a couple of essential oils I have used to help me with body and dating confidence:
Patchouli is a great grounding and calming essential oil to diffuse. I love to use it when I am feeling a little scatty, and at night with other wood based oils like Frankincense and Cedarwood. It’s wonderful diluted with fractionated coconut oil or your favourite body butter or cream and massaged into those areas you have confidence issues with. You need to look at yourself with rose tinted glasses rather than with a magnifying glass. If you are going to hide under the sheets and turn the lights off, it will be a big turn off, not turn on in a new relationship. Men and women alike are inspired and turned on by body confidence.
The additional bonus of using Patchouli is that it is an oil which is fabulous for fine lines and wrinkles. I am a huge fan of V necked dresses and tops, and as a result this area of my skin has aged faster from sun exposure. I love to rub in patchouli with fractionated coconut oil into this area of my body.
Your heart has already been broken, so why should you trust that it won’t be broken again? Well, if you don’t try, you will never find out, and you will miss out on the wonderful experiences and relationships that you could experience. It would be folly to think that the first person you meet is going to be the next Mr or Mrs Right. Who wants that anyway? You want to take your time to figure out what you are looking for in a relationship this time around.
In the meantime, you can use Geranium essential oil, on your heart, to help with trust and to heal the emotional wounds. This is a very sweet smelling essential oil, which I have come to love, and I like to diffuse it and wear it as a pure-fume.