September 25, 2025 in Emotional Healing and Wisdom, Romantic Relationships
Ghosting is when someone you’ve been building a connection with suddenly cuts off all communication — no explanation, no closure, no goodbye.
One day they’re lighting up your phone, the next, silence.
It leaves you questioning what went wrong, but really, the silence says more about their emotional capacity than it does about your worth.
Some of the emotions and feelings we can feel during this experience include:
- Anger, frustration, fear, confusion, rage, sadness and self-doubt.
It doesn't have to be this way!
But first it's important to understand that you can't control their behaviour!
What we can do, is to manage our own emotions and feelings and take a pause to look after ourselves.
- The first thing we can do, is put our phone down, or away. Staring at the screen is not going to help.
- Breathe.
- Put one hand on your tummy and one hand on your heart. Now say to yourself, I love you.
- Now's the time to reach for your essential oils, because essential oils work with your olfactory system which is the key to managing your thoughts and emotions and feelings.
- You can do yoga or whatever form of exercise or self introspection later, for now we just need some time for ourselves.
Here's what I recommend:
- I would use one of the following options to get you through the moment, depending upon the extent of your emotions and the circumstance.
- An Adaptiv touch rollerball which allows you to safely roll the essential oil which is contained in a carrier oil behind your ears, along your throat, over your heart and on each wrist. Deeply inhale and breathe in. Close your eyes, and just sit for a while.
- Feeling really worked up? Maybe this is the first time this has happened to you, OR it's the sudden realisation that this is a repeating pattern. Then take one Adaptiv capsule and allow it to take time to calm your nervous system.
- On medication and don't want to have to wait to check with your doctor? Have a diffuser? Then you can safely diffuse Adaptiv essential oil to allow your environment to feel calm no matter where you are in the house.
Why Adaptiv?
Lavender, Copaiba, Rosemary, Magnolia, and Neroli essential oils cultivate a soothing, relaxing atmosphere. Wild Orange and Spearmint combine to create an uplifting environment. Whether you’re feeling fatigued or restless, indecisive or irritable, Adaptiv Calming Blend is a priceless addition to your self-care toolbox. Diffuse or apply it after taking the capsules for synergistic results.
Adaptiv Calming Blend Capsules
These capsules can help reduce feelings of stress and restore mental and physical resiliency.* They combine the soothing benefits of CPTG Certified Pure Tested Grade® essential oils with clinically studied botanicals to help empower and encourage when adapting to stressful situations or acclimating to new surroundings.* You can naturally manage the effects of everyday tension, uneasiness, and worry.* Need more information- read this product information sheet.
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Here's a simple kit including the Adaptiv Touch rollerball, the essential oil and the capsules that you can use for stressful moments like these. Simply scan the barcode or use the following link to purchase. My enroller ID is ID: 18124783 incase something goes wrong.
If you live in the UK the Adaptiv Calming Capsules are not available, so I recommend the Frankincense Microbead Capsules and the Serenity Sleep stick incase you are not sleeping well- here is your shopping cart https://doterra.me/glem2H or you can just contact me on social media or via the contact me button.
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Want to learn more about repeating patterns in romantic relationships?
Why not join our Facebook Group Karmic Love. Essential Oils are just one part of the solution. In our group we cover energy healing, past life regression, clinical hypnotherapy and other modalities and insights to help you understand why this is happening to you and what you can do about it.
To find out more about Karmic Repeating behaviours- read this page.