How do you connect with your Higher Self?
In this episode of The Infinite Life Podcast, Holly Duckworth joins Katische Haberfield to explore the Higher Self, soul growth, infinite love, grief, reincarnation, and the spiritual lessons that emerge through QHHT (Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique).
Holly shares how a personal family crisis led her from corporate leadership and psychology into spiritual work, where she has now conducted more than 1,500 QHHT sessions helping people connect with their Higher Self and understand their soul journey.
Holly Duckworth’s Journey Into QHHT
Holly explains how discovering the work of Dolores Cannon completely changed the direction of her life.
After her son was incarcerated following a DUI charge, he recommended she read The Convoluted Universe Book Four while he was in prison. That moment opened the doorway into Dolores Cannon’s work, hypnosis, reincarnation, and direct communication with the Higher Self.
What began as curiosity quickly became a complete life transformation.
Holly later trained in QHHT and began conducting sessions focused on life purpose, healing, soul growth, and Higher Self communication.
What Is the Higher Self?
Throughout the conversation, Holly explains that the Higher Self is not separate from us.
Instead, it is:
- the eternal part of consciousness
- the part still connected to the divine
- the self beyond ego and personality
- the aspect that existed before incarnation and continues after physical death
She explains that many people expect dramatic spiritual experiences when connecting with the Higher Self, but often the guidance feels deeply familiar because it has always been present beneath the noise of daily life.
The Four Types of Life Purpose
Drawing from more than 400 analysed QHHT sessions, Holly explains that the Higher Self repeatedly identified only four core forms of life purpose:
- Life purpose through experience
- Life purpose through service
- Life purpose through love
- Life purpose simply “to be”
One of the strongest themes in this conversation is that soul purpose is less about achievement and more about how consciousness expresses itself through incarnation.
Infinite Love, Grief, and Soul Connection
One of the most emotional parts of the episode emerges when Holly shares the recent passing of her husband after 36 years together.
She describes how psychic mediums unexpectedly appeared in her QHHT sessions immediately after his death and how she later began communicating with him through automatic writing.
The discussion explores:
- grief after physical death
- soul-level relationships
- communication after death
- infinite love beyond incarnation
- how personality changes after transition
Katische and Holly both reflect on the experience of recognising loved ones beyond the “human suit” they wore during physical life.
Starseeds, Other Dimensions, and Consciousness Beyond Earth
The conversation also explores extraterrestrial consciousness, starseed identities, and lives experienced beyond Earth.
Holly explains that many clients access memories of lives connected to locations humans cannot currently identify or name, far beyond the small number of star systems commonly discussed online.
The discussion includes:
- extraterrestrial lifetimes
- consciousness in non-human forms
- collective soul memory
- lives as rocks, trees, stars, and energy systems
- multidimensional soul experiences
Gratitude as a State of Being
Toward the end of the episode, Holly explains the central teaching from her latest book, Finding Gratitude.
Rather than seeing gratitude as a simple list of positive things, she describes gratitude as a vibrational state that supports soul growth even during grief, pain, and major life transitions.
The conversation reframes gratitude as:
- a frequency
- a spiritual practice
- a state of infinite love
- a way of accelerating soul evolution
Who This Episode Is For
This episode is for listeners who are:
- exploring the Higher Self
- interested in QHHT or Dolores Cannon’s work
- navigating grief or loss
- curious about reincarnation and soul purpose
- exploring consciousness beyond Earth
- seeking a deeper understanding of infinite love
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About Holly Duckworth
Holly Duckworth PhD integrates corporate leadership, psychology, and spiritual exploration through her work with QHHT.
She has conducted more than 1,500 hypnosis sessions helping clients explore soul purpose, healing, forgiveness, gratitude, and communication with the Higher Self. She is the author of The Higher Self Trilogy.
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TRANSCRIPT
Ep9: Infinite Love and the Higher Self: Holly Duckworth
[00:00:00] Katische Haberfield: welcome back to The Infinite Life with me, your host, Katische Haberfield. We're in the infinite Love season, and this week I'm really honored to have a very special guest with us, and her name is Holly Duckworth. Holly Duckworth PhD is a spiritual guide. and author who integrates her 20 year background in corporate leadership with her PhD in psychology. a career managing engineering teams and implementing Six Sigma in global firms, she transitioned to a therapeutic practice focused on spiritual exploration. over 13 years, Holly has conducted more than 1500 sessions using QHHT, which is quantum healing hypnosis techniques to help clients across. Access their Higher Self. She's the author of The Higher Self Trilogy, which blends channeled wisdom with clinical experience, her latest book, finding Gratitude, reframes Gratitude [00:01:00] as a transformative state of being. Welcome to the podcast, Holly.
[00:01:04] Holly Duckworth: Thank you, Katische. I'm so excited to talk to you today.
[00:01:07] Katische Haberfield: Yeah, I am too. And I just wanted to say we have similar backgrounds because you were doing Six Sigma and working in global corporate firms. I also started off in the corporate world and we both ended spiritual realm. It's really interesting how we can. Typecast ourselves at the beginning of our careers and say, I'm here to do this. And yet the world opens up in wonderful ways, doesn't it?
[00:01:32] Holly Duckworth: Yeah, but you know what? I think that having had that background and transitioning into a spiritual service gives me an insight into my clients because they're still in that world and they might be just awakening or trying to escape that world or trying to figure out how to maneuver that world in their spiritually awakened way.
[00:01:58] Holly Duckworth: And I, get it, like I [00:02:00] can speak their language, I can understand their perspective. Yeah.
[00:02:04] Katische Haberfield: Perfect. one of the things that we wanted to talk about in particular was the highest self. And Dolores Cannon is your inspiration, I assume.
[00:02:17] Holly Duckworth: Yes.
[00:02:18] Katische Haberfield: She has inspired many of us and many of us have read many, of her books.
[00:02:24] Katische Haberfield: How you decided that the QHHT path was going to be the path that you would take?
[00:02:31] Katische Haberfield: What, were the sort of from your higher self that said, this is what calls me.
[00:02:36] Holly Duckworth: Yeah. It was a baseball bat to the forehead sign.
[00:02:41] Katische Haberfield: Oh, okay. Okay.
[00:02:46] Holly Duckworth: Pretty tragic actually.
[00:02:47] Katische Haberfield: Oh.
[00:02:48] Holly Duckworth: In 2010 I had just finished my PhD in psychology and I was still in the corporate world and I was doing things like leadership development and executive [00:03:00] coaching and that kind of thing with my psychology credentials.
[00:03:06] Holly Duckworth: And there was always this little thing in the back of my head of I don't know why, because my bachelor's degree is in mechanical engineering. So I was in process engineering, like very analytic work. But I maneuvered into the psychology. I'd always had a big interest in that, but I was doing this leadership development stuff.
[00:03:26] Holly Duckworth: So this would've been late 2012, my son, who at the time was 20, got arrested for driving under the influence situation. And he went to jail for 21 days. And it was a situation where I couldn't see him, I couldn't visit him. I could only have occasional telephone calls. So he calls me in one of these rare phone conversations that I had with him. He goes, Hey mom, I found this book I think you'd really [00:04:00] like. And it was Dolores Cannon Convoluted Universe Book four.
[00:04:05] Holly Duckworth: And I had never heard of her, never would've heard of her in the circles that I was in. We hang up, Amazon click, order the book just to talk about it. The next time we talked and I start reading this book, Katische and everything I had ever believed in my entire life, and there it is in print and I had never seen it in print before.
[00:04:25] Holly Duckworth: And so then I just started devouring her books. So by the time my son got out of jail. I had read about five or six of her books. I was just reading 'em as fast as I could and she was gonna be having a weekend seminar a month later. And so I told my son, I'm like, let's go see her. Let's go be in the room with her.
[00:04:44] Holly Duckworth: And what Dolores would do is she would have these weekend seminars and she'd put a hundred, 200 people in a hotel ballroom into hypnosis simultaneously, and on different days she'd have a different topics. So it might [00:05:00] be past life regression or meet your spirit guide or future life or, extraterrestrial life or just, different kinds of journeys.
[00:05:10] Holly Duckworth: So that's what this seminar was. Now, mind you, I'm this left brain analytic person, so I'm honestly thinking I wanna go to the seminar. I have so much respect for her and her research. I align with her beliefs. But that hypnosis stuff, that's not gonna work me. But that's okay. 'cause I still wanna be there.
[00:05:36] Holly Duckworth: It's gonna be healing for my son and us together, so I'm gonna do it, but I know that hypnosis stuff is not gonna work on me, and that's okay. Of course we get into the first hypnosis and I'm out, and I'm having this profound experience in this past life. One that I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt would've never been my imagination.
[00:05:57] Holly Duckworth: I could not have imagined it. Just [00:06:00] not that creative. And then she brings everybody out and I'm like, oh my gosh, this works. This stuff really works. Like I'm gonna go up to the stage and tell Dolores, did you know this stuff works? She'd only been doing it for 35 years at that point. So that was it.
[00:06:16] Holly Duckworth: That was the day. I'm like, everything, it just all made sense oh, that's why I got a PhD in psychology. So I was in training the next month and I've never looked back. So it was through tragedy. It was because of my son's very unfortunate circumstances. And, we joke now this is 13 years later and, we look back and he goes, Hey mom that's the only reason I had to go to jail was so you could meet Delores.
[00:06:42] Holly Duckworth: I'm like, I know. Thank you.
[00:06:43] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:06:44] Holly Duckworth: I later found out her publishing company had a prison outreach program. They would send books to prisons.
[00:06:53] Katische Haberfield: Okay, great. Fabulous.
[00:06:56] Holly Duckworth: yeah.
[00:06:56] Katische Haberfield: When you're in confinement, you've got an access to [00:07:00] think a lot.
[00:07:01] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:07:02] Katische Haberfield: think positively and connect to the universal messages and a higher self can actually get through all of that thought form, energy, all of that negativity in a prison.
[00:07:14] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:07:14] Katische Haberfield: miracles that happen, so
[00:07:16] Holly Duckworth: Oh, absolutely. And I now teach a dark night of the soul. Course, and that was my dark night of the soul is when my son was in that situation. And I learned so many things about myself that just being the mom. Anyone who's attached to any loved one that might be incarcerated, it's a moment for profound growth and, understanding of self.
[00:07:44] Holly Duckworth: Not, recommending it.
[00:07:48] Holly Duckworth: But if it happens, it can be a lever.
[00:07:51] Katische Haberfield: Yeah,
[00:07:52] Katische Haberfield: that's right.
[00:07:52] Holly Duckworth: Yeah
[00:07:53] Katische Haberfield: That's one of the things we have to learn in life, isn't it? You can't control everything that happens to your children. Your children have gotta be children, they've gotta be adults. They've gotta [00:08:00] learn, they've gotta make their mistakes.
[00:08:01] Holly Duckworth: yeah.
[00:08:02] Katische Haberfield: it's how you react to what happens
[00:08:05] Holly Duckworth: Exactly.
[00:08:05] Katische Haberfield: defines your experience.
[00:08:09] Holly Duckworth: Exactly, Yep.
[00:08:10] Katische Haberfield: And so what has your higher self shown you since then? What has the journey been through developing your own relationship with your higher self since that moment, what have you,
[00:08:19] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:08:19] Katische Haberfield: have you been taught?
[00:08:21] Holly Duckworth: So for those not familiar with QHHT, quantum healing hypnosis technique, that's Dolores Cannon's method of, metaphysical hypnosis. A client only has one session, but that one session is five to seven hours.
[00:08:35] Holly Duckworth: So I spend all day with one client and that client comes in with all the questions they wanna ask the higher self. So these are usually physical health, emotional health, but it could also be relationships, life, decisions, past, present, future. It doesn't matter. And then we spend a couple of hours in the morning making sure that I understand the questions and the context around the questions.
[00:08:59] Holly Duckworth: [00:09:00] Because when we get into the hypnosis, I'm just having an organic conversation with higher self and I don't know where it's gonna go before it goes. So I gotta be ready for that. Then we go into the hypnosis, and the hypnosis in dolores's technique is two to three hours.
[00:09:14] Holly Duckworth: So we have this. Luxury of time to number one, set a really, deep state of trance. That's the secret. It's just the luxury of time and have a very full conversation with the higher self. We go on for. Hours having a conversation, getting all of the client's questions answered, and then that's all audio recorded and we continue to process that.
[00:09:40] Holly Duckworth: Years after the, hypnosis, so that's A-Q-H-H-T session, three to five days a week, every week I am having these two to three hour conversations with higher self, and that kind of how my first book came about. I was not only freaked out about how [00:10:00] similar the client's questions were, especially on a couple of questions, but I was really freaked out how similar the answers were across people that did not know each other.
[00:10:14] Holly Duckworth: And so my first book in the trilogy is "Finding Purpose, surprising Wisdom from the Higher Self". And it's a compilation of over 400 of these QHHT sessions and the answers to what is my life lesson, what is my life purpose, and how do I connect with the higher self? And so people were just, when I first started, like almost everybody had these questions.
[00:10:38] Holly Duckworth: So I'm like, oh, this isn't that interesting. So there obviously everybody wants the answer to these questions. And then like I said, what really freaked me out is all the answers were the same. For example I did a very rigorous form of qualitative analysis, of course, given my background on these 400 sessions, and it came [00:11:00] up that there's only four kinds of life purpose, four out of over 400 sessions, and so finding this universal similarity of information. I think that's one of the things that I've really come to understand from the higher self is that, yeah, we're all different points of light, but we're also all points of light within the same light. And so even though we're all having unique and individual experiences, it is the human experience is the human experience, right?
[00:11:35] Holly Duckworth: Yeah. So that's one of my biggest. Yep.
[00:11:38] Katische Haberfield: of those four? So just pick one of them. Personally resonated with you the most.
[00:11:44] Holly Duckworth: So I'll just roll through them very quickly. Ascending order of commonality. Life purpose as experience. So to have a specific experience, like to be a mom or to be a dad would be a [00:12:00] life purpose of experience. And then the second most common, which is the one I resonate, is a life of service.
[00:12:07] Holly Duckworth: So you're helping other people. It's not about you. It's about what you're doing with other people. Okay? The third most common, so more frequently would be a life purpose of to be and bring love into this dimension, which gets us to your infinite love topic. Okay? So that's the third and the most common, over half of those 400, the answer to what is my life purpose is "to be".
[00:12:40] Holly Duckworth: Period
[00:12:42] Holly Duckworth: To be the only Katische that's ever been Katische and ever will be, to be the only Holly that's ever been Holly and ever will be. And that's it. And notice in each of these, it's nothing about doing, it's about how you're showing up state [00:13:00] of being as you fulfill your life.
[00:13:05] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:13:06] Katische Haberfield: And before people come in and have a session, do you find that they are. Aware of the concept of a higher self, or is it just something that they don't know about until they experience being in that really deep state and then it's oh, that's just obvious. Do you know what I mean?
[00:13:27] Holly Duckworth: Yeah, so some people are already very connected. Obviously people that are psychically gifted, people that are already channeling. I get those people in my office and I say to myself, why are you here? You don't need me. But they show up anyway. But most people are thinking that they're gonna have some sort of profound like God moment kind of thing. And some people do. For [00:14:00] example one woman that I wrote about in finding purpose was she grew up with a heroin addicted mother and learned how to feed her infant sister at the age of five. She learned how to make a bottle for her infant sister, and she lived, this loveless life her entire life, and in her QHHT session, they were able to give her visceral sensation, the physical sensation of divine love, and it was very profound viscerally for her. So there are moment, there are God moments like that, but for most people they're expecting this like big booming voice. I don't know, the guy in the sandals on the cloud talking to them or something and then what actually comes through is "I already knew that".
[00:14:54] Holly Duckworth: It's yeah, because you're always connected to higher self. They've been trying to. [00:15:00] Talk to you, but so often we just dismiss it, oh, it's, yeah. Okay. Yeah. That's a thought. And another part of that finding purpose book is how to commune with a higher self.
[00:15:14] Holly Duckworth: How to listen to the higher self. Because they want you to listen. They want you to know that they're there and we need to talk about who they are. But, it's super easy. It's not strange and it's not weird, and it's not some dude in sandals on a cloud. It's, you, but it's the you without ego.
[00:15:34] Holly Duckworth: Okay? It's the true you, it's the pure, you And I refer to higher self as they, because they refer to themselves as we, from the higher self perspective outside of the monkey suit they don't really see themselves as separate. Everything's kind of a collective. So they say we, so I say they. And when I [00:16:00] ask, every client, I'll ask the higher self, how would you describe yourself to her?
[00:16:04] Holly Duckworth: Who are you to her? And so the answers range from I'm the eternal part of her. I'm the part of her that's still connected to the divine. I'm the part of her that's always been with her. I'm the true part of her. I'm the part of her without her body. I was here before and I'll be here after, there's lots of words we use to describe that, but that's how they describe themselves.
[00:16:34] Katische Haberfield: And what I would like to ask you about is the life purpose which you said was the love one, the
[00:16:41] Holly Duckworth: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:16:42] Katische Haberfield: Explain to me how you've had examples of that in sessions and how that's different. Any stories.
[00:16:50] Holly Duckworth: Yeah So, the one was that woman, so that woman that grew up with a heroin addicted mother. So just to finish her story, flesh her story out a little more. [00:17:00] Of course we, always ask why, did she have this experience? Because often what I find is when we have these villains in our life, like her mother, some people might label her a villain.
[00:17:12] Holly Duckworth: They're actually usually an elder soul family member that's agreed to play this villain to help us in our lessons, right? And then we found that out for her. But this client, she spent all of her life she was very involved in charities. She helped with homeless shelters. She was a very giving person.
[00:17:34] Holly Duckworth: But in a way how the higher self explained it was, she was doing that out of routine because that's all she knew. 'cause at five she was feeding a newborn but she was doing it loveless, so she was showing up to the service work. She didn't know love. She had never felt love ever. And so she didn't know how to give with love.
[00:17:57] Holly Duckworth: She just knew how to give as a robot basically. [00:18:00] And so after this experience in her QHHT session she'd go back and do the same thing. It wasn't like her life was going to change but everything would change because now she would know what love is. She had that physical visceral sensation in her and she would be able to give her service now with love and the entire point of that entire childhood was for her to know what Lovelessness was in order to really know what love was right. A fish can't know water. And so she would now know love better than any of us because she had spent so much of her life completely Loveless Lee
[00:18:51] Katische Haberfield: what that might show you in other sessions too I'm guessing you've had lots of examples of people who've had [00:19:00] relationships where it was completely lacking in love. And then maybe after the sessions with you, they found that vibration, that essence, that divine love in somebody, but they needed
[00:19:11] Holly Duckworth: Yeah
[00:19:12] Katische Haberfield: The
[00:19:13] Holly Duckworth: The
[00:19:13] Holly Duckworth: exactly For any of your listeners, even if you're feeling that lovelessness. Now that might be preparing you for the experience of true love. 'cause a lot of us go through life thinking we have love, but then when we feel the real deal, it's oh, I thought I knew love. I didn't know love, so let's get to the infinite part of that infinite love. So Katische I didn't share this with you, but since we booked this, my husband of 36 years passed away suddenly in a motorcycle accident.
[00:19:53] Katische Haberfield: Okay.
[00:19:54] Katische Haberfield: Goodness.
[00:19:54] Holly Duckworth: At the end of September, my husband. I've found out of [00:20:00] course, through the higher self, through QHHT that of course we knew each other before this incarnation and we're intended to be together and absolute love of my life.
[00:20:14] Holly Duckworth: And so I am grieving. I'm smiling now, but trust me, there's lots of kleenex all over my, house. It's moments, right? Waves and moments, this is how Spirit works. This is how like crazy amazing Infinite, the infinite part of Infinite Love is. So we spent 36 years together. Inseparable, absolutely inseparable.
[00:20:36] Holly Duckworth: And he was, the yin to my yang or yang to my yin, I don't know, which is female, which is male. But anyway, I mean we were opposites, but like hand and glove. And so it was, pretty devastating when he, when it was this sudden accident, and I still had sessions like in the coming days, and I'm booked usually many months in advance.[00:21:00]
[00:21:00] Holly Duckworth: People fly in from all over the world to come to sessions. There aren't very many level threes in the world. Level three just means we're certified to be practising. Exactly as Dolores did. So if you go to a level three QHHT practitioner, it's as if you're seeing Dolores. Okay? I've had clients fly to Colorado, from Kenya, from London from all over the world.
[00:21:24] Holly Duckworth: And so I don't know where my clients are coming from, so I can't just not show up to the office, right? And so like in a week or so after my husband's sudden death, I've got clients and I'm communing with Higher Self. I'm like, what do I do? I'm telling them, I'm like, okay, these people better be here for me, not me for them.
[00:21:44] Holly Duckworth: 'cause I don't wanna be doing this right now. Do you know that a handful of the people that showed up in those coming days were psychic mediums. And like I said I get those people, I get channelers and psych [00:22:00] psychic meetings coming into QI and I always, when they show up, I'm like, why are you here?
[00:22:05] Holly Duckworth: I knew these people were here for me. And every one of them graciously allowed my husband to, channel through, them. So I was able to talk to him immediately after. And I had one of the psychics this was six days after he had passed, and she channeled him very clearly. He and I are having a conversation through her in hypnosis and he's telling me things that there's absolutely no way. She would've known about very private and intimate details of what was going on around us. And it was a lot of activity going on, obviously. And, so she, wakes up from hypnosis and I'm like, oh I'm so, grateful for you doing that to me 'cause we don't normally do that. Have, our own, but here's a psychic medium in my office. I'm like, I [00:23:00] think Spirit sent you here. And she goes how, long did he pass? How long ago did he pass? I'm like, six days. And she says normally I can't talk to them for three weeks.
[00:23:16] Holly Duckworth: That's amazing. And I'm like doesn't surprise me 'cause we were connected at a soul level. One of the last things that he said to me through her in her session was to try automatic writing. Now, I don't know if you've ever heard of automatic writing. I had never done automatic writing.
[00:23:36] Holly Duckworth: I had clients that have done automatic writing. I have friends that do automatic write. I had never done automatic writing, but he said, try automatic writing. So a few more days later, I sit down with a pad of paper and go into my meditation. Just my normal daily meditation with a pen in my hand.
[00:23:56] Holly Duckworth: And sure enough, I'm having a full blown [00:24:00] conversation with him, just like you and I we're having a conversation right here and pretty much every day since it's been a couple months now, I have. Talked to him every day. Through automatic writing, having a full blown conversation, questions and answers, and inside jokes and, just as if you were in the room.
[00:24:25] Holly Duckworth: So I am now a personal testament to the infinite love in that when we have a real. Soul level connection, and there can be people that we're very close to in our lives and it isn't a soul level connection. We're just helping each other in the incarnation. But when there's a real soul level connection that even upon leaving this dimension, that connection is just as solid and just as easy and just as clear as you and me [00:25:00] chatting on Zoom.
[00:25:02] Katische Haberfield: And firstly, I am very sorry for your loss. And thank you for coming on despite it being such a short period of time. And what I loved about that story was that it mirrors Dolores's experience where she had people come in, that she's written whole books where they were there for Her on her journey.
[00:25:20] Holly Duckworth: Yes.
[00:25:21] Katische Haberfield: I think that no matter which, version of hypnosis, hypnotherapy, clinical, hypnotherapy, past life regression therapy, whatever you wanna call it, in any modality, there's always gonna be clients that are there that turn up for you because.
[00:25:34] Holly Duckworth: Yes.
[00:25:35] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:25:36] Katische Haberfield: are there to help you to they're part of your journey.
[00:25:38] Katische Haberfield: They're part of your soul journey. That's, beautiful that you have that continued connection. And also I do think being a psychic and a medium and a channel and myself, though we are connected intimately through and with spirit at all moments of the day, we still need [00:26:00] some help sometimes. Do you know what I
[00:26:01] Katische Haberfield: Sometimes we have our own thoughts and they're just so cloudy Just get through and we're
[00:26:06] Holly Duckworth: yeah.
[00:26:07] Katische Haberfield: I should be able to. Normally I do, but I can't right now.
[00:26:12] Holly Duckworth: You need, you just need a third person in the room. You know I say that jokingly. A third person, right? Yeah.
[00:26:17] Katische Haberfield: right. Yeah.
[00:26:18] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:26:20] Katische Haberfield: This morning I was sitting down doing just a little bit of work before you came in and one of my spirit guides, her name is Maitland, I was her mom in her past life.
[00:26:30] Katische Haberfield: And She comes in and she rings.
[00:26:33] Katische Haberfield: I have a kohi chime on the wall and she rings the bell, to let me know and this morning she rang it specific exactly the tasks that I needed to do this morning and only the specific tasks because I can get sometimes I'm, as they say, I'm off, with the fairies. I'm just so up in the cloud that it's hard for me to be grounded in what I need to do [00:27:00] right now that's gonna make an impact. So that that was, nice because sometimes I just can't reach the higher self because there's a medium or a channel. There's just always somebody there wanting to, chat. And you are like, you have to firm boundaries that go. Now. I I can't right now.
[00:27:17] Holly Duckworth: yeah.
[00:27:18] Katische Haberfield: but what are the next question that I had was firstly, I wish you well on your continuing grief journey
[00:27:26] Holly Duckworth: Thank you.
[00:27:27] Katische Haberfield: also that for listeners, yes, Holly and I are both spiritual therapists, practitioners, but we're human beings too.
[00:27:35] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:27:36] Katische Haberfield: it
[00:27:36] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:27:37] Katische Haberfield: time to get over death. My, when father died. Very early in my aware part of my spiritual journey. and it's taken me 13 years to consciously connect to who he was in a past [00:28:00] life.
[00:28:00] Katische Haberfield: And I was like. Oh my God. No wonder I felt very connected to you.
[00:28:09] Holly Duckworth: Oh.
[00:28:10] Katische Haberfield: I even had I asked that medium can you ask dad? he who I thought he was in a past life? 'cause I had an idea. And she's he's not gonna tell you 'cause this is being publicly recorded. but he goes like this and I'm like, oh back, backwards. I realized, I was like, oh, he was that father in that particular lifetime. And I was like, Completely makes sense because the issues that we shared in that lifetime which were around legacy and money and being unique individuals in comparison to our rank and title transfer into this lifetime. And they [00:29:00] were some of the things that have been most, the most freeing and also the most frustrating part of our relationship. So yeah, because I thought my dad. It was interesting, I would say to to anybody. I think my dad has got me out of anybody that I've ever met. He got me the most, but he certainly didn't get why I did what I did.
[00:29:25] Katische Haberfield: And I frustrated him a lot. But when I finally tapped into why does he get me? It's because he's been my dad before and
[00:29:36] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:29:37] Katische Haberfield: he died. 'cause he wasn't in any way, shape or form, religious or spiritual in this lifetime. It makes me I get that heart feeling straight away because I had to figure that out on my own because his challenge in this lifetime was to, not be spiritually in touch.
[00:29:56] Katische Haberfield: He would prod and poke me on my journey by doing the [00:30:00] right things, like dropping me off at church as a small child because he said I needed to learn the fundamentals of religion to determine myself, whether I wanted to be religious or not. The answer was no. But yeah, when you then can look back because you've been into a well for him. I have done that past life regression for myself, and I didn't see him in it, but once I connected the energy it was like, oh,
[00:30:25] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:30:25] Katische Haberfield: just
[00:30:26] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:30:27] Katische Haberfield: funny. It's
[00:30:27] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:30:28] Katische Haberfield: funny in that lifetime, the relationship between us. But it is funny now because it's like I got the, cosmic joke,
[00:30:36] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:30:36] Katische Haberfield: It.
[00:30:37] Holly Duckworth: I don't know if, it's like this for you, but Absolutely. Spirit souls have personality, but it's a different personality than, the human personality. I don't even know how to describe it. It's just not worried. It's they're eternal.
[00:30:58] Holly Duckworth: What are they in a rush for? [00:31:00] And so it's this kind of more peaceful, like more above board, I guess feeling to it. And so as I was automatic writing with my husband, gene was his name, as I'm automatic writing with Gene over the coming days and weeks.
[00:31:19] Holly Duckworth: He stopped sounding less like Gene and more like higher self. More of that. Feeling to it. And I'm like, what's going on? And I asked him up front, I'm like, why? Like you're using words you wouldn't normally use as Gene. I'm just getting a different vibe, a different attitude.
[00:31:38] Holly Duckworth: He goes, yeah, I'm dropping the jean suit.
[00:31:42] Katische Haberfield: Yeah. Yeah
[00:31:44] Holly Duckworth: This was, weeks after he had passed, so he even on the other side, he kept some of that and then he got to decide I'm dropping some of the jean suit.
[00:31:53] Katische Haberfield: Yeah. Because what I think is profound is that. We don't have to do anything, but they would like us to connect to the [00:32:00] internal essence of them than just the suit that they wore.
[00:32:03] Holly Duckworth: Yes
[00:32:04] Katische Haberfield: And that's a hard one to connect to once somebody is grieved. So I salute him for making that very quick transition
[00:32:13] Holly Duckworth: Yeah
[00:32:14] Katische Haberfield: I've got lessons or things to teach you and I wanna transmit that infinite love to you, but you have to get past seeing me as this suit, that character,
[00:32:23] Holly Duckworth: exactly.
[00:32:24] Katische Haberfield: And it might take you your whole lifetime, but I am more than this and I will never leave
[00:32:29] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:32:29] Katische Haberfield: But yes, you're still a human, so you're still allowed to grieve me.
[00:32:32] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:32:32] Katische Haberfield: There's more parts of me. There's a whole bouquet. There's a whole of me.
[00:32:36] Holly Duckworth: here's another fun story associated with that. So one of the things that psychic told me that I told you she's through channeling Gene. There were things he said that no one else would've known, right? She certainly wouldn't have known. As he was passing right before he passed, he was reading he was into, his stepdad was a musician.
[00:32:56] Holly Duckworth: He was into rock and roll and the [00:33:00] Beatles the old rock and roll guys. And he had just finished reading the biography of Tom Petty. The singer and yeah, he just liked that kind of stuff. That was his, bag. And one of the last things that he said through this psychic was, and while I'm here, I'm gonna look up all the old rock and rollers.
[00:33:28] Holly Duckworth: She wouldn't have known that. I didn't say anything about that, but he's, telling me this and, so I'm just like, okay, that's funny. I'm gonna go look up George Harrison in heaven, right? Many weeks later. I ask him oh yeah.
[00:33:45] Holly Duckworth: Did you get a chance to look up the old rock and rollers? And he goes but it's not them. It's just their essence. Like he was disappointed.
[00:33:54] Katische Haberfield: Yeah.
[00:33:56] Holly Duckworth: They're not rock.
[00:33:58] Katische Haberfield: No. [00:34:00] Yeah.
[00:34:01] Holly Duckworth: They're just pure souls like everybody else.
[00:34:04] Katische Haberfield: Yeah.
[00:34:05] Holly Duckworth: it.
[00:34:06] Katische Haberfield: I wanted to go sing blue suede shoes with Elvis, but he's
[00:34:10] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:34:11] Katische Haberfield: being Elvis or, yeah.
[00:34:12] Holly Duckworth: Yeah, he's just pure infinite love. He is not Elvis anymore. Dang it.
[00:34:17] Katische Haberfield: Yep. Yeah. Interesting, And what the next thing that I wanted to ask you about when we're talking about infinite love. And this is one of Dolores's specialties, is obviously we have resided on locations and dimensions that are not Earth. And so some people. Are very open to connecting with the essence of their energy from other planets or other forms of consciousness.
[00:34:49] Katische Haberfield: But it is obviously Dolores did a lot of work on abductions and the lessons from that and stuff like that. So there's this collective [00:35:00] fear of quote unquote aliens and what they do or don't do to us. And sometimes we can't even get past the fact that we have been aliens in other lifetimes.
[00:35:10] Katische Haberfield: Do you have examples of, have you had sessions, I'm assuming you have, where your clients. Have connected to the infinite love of souls or consciousness that they have experienced or been in relationship with in other locations other than Earth.
[00:35:27] Holly Duckworth: Almost every day of the week. We've all been, and here's what's fascinating to me about that. Many, literally hundreds and hundreds of experiences of life on other planets planets made of gas. Where the people on the planet are gas planets made of crystals where you walk into the crystal and you live inside the crystal planets with gorgeous [00:36:00] crystalline domes, and that's where you live.
[00:36:03] Holly Duckworth: All manner of spaceships. Tiny little spaceships, great big giant motherships all kinds of experiences. What's fascinating to me though about all of the extraterrestrial experiences, most people come in and they'll have a question on their list of questions of, am I Ian or Arturian or maybe so and so told me I was ly am I or am I not?
[00:36:37] Holly Duckworth: My astrologer told me that I need to pay attention to serious the the, star system does, that have anything to do with my soul? And the vast majority of the time, most people have had lives. Outside of Earth. And when I ask [00:37:00] so the way we ask questions in QHHT sessions is it's complete neutrality.
[00:37:05] Holly Duckworth: There are zero assumptions, right? Even when we're asking about physical illness, we don't use the word illness, we just say physical situation. It's just a situation. So we, approach every question just completely neutrally and I'll ask and I'll, say does, did, does Mary have, has Mary had other lives outside of Earth?
[00:37:30] Holly Duckworth: Oh, yes. Hundreds. Would there be like a, place in the universe where Mary's soul would be more familiar than another? Oh yeah. She has a home. She has a home system. Oh, okay. Would humans have a name for that home system? No, because humans have never seen it and so people wanna get hung up on these four or five star systems that we know about, which is like not even the tip of [00:38:00] the iceberg of star systems and planet systems out there.
[00:38:04] Holly Duckworth: 99.999999999% of all places outside of Earth we've never seen. We don't have a name for it. We don't even have a number for it 'cause it's so far away. And so the, higher self will just say, humans don't have a name for it. And I'm like, okay. Could you describe it to her? Could you, describe some of the features about that?
[00:38:28] Holly Duckworth: And then they can do that. You, yeah.
[00:38:30] Katische Haberfield: Yeah, interesting. And I put the double thumbs up because on the podcast I did do what we called a star seed season because I
[00:38:39] Katische Haberfield: saw On social media and then we did a. Whole series of sessions. And I think, two the people that participated in that series had lifetimes with places that were mentionable in human language.
[00:38:54] Katische Haberfield: It
[00:38:54] Katische Haberfield: Like
[00:38:55] Katische Haberfield: no name for it. There's no
[00:38:57] Katische Haberfield: Language. So
[00:38:59] Holly Duckworth: Nope,
[00:38:59] Katische Haberfield: [00:39:00] it's
[00:39:00] Holly Duckworth: Nope.
[00:39:01] Katische Haberfield: you can
[00:39:01] Holly Duckworth: Or the, or
[00:39:01] Katische Haberfield: tests you can do the multi-choice test. You can if it makes you feel better. Maybe you
[00:39:06] Holly Duckworth: yeah.
[00:39:06] Katische Haberfield: there. Maybe you, you, did. The suit of being a plead in once or
[00:39:11] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:39:11] Katische Haberfield: but you are far more complex than just
[00:39:16] Holly Duckworth: I did have the higher self one time go we can try to make this sound and it was something like, or something like that.
[00:39:28] Holly Duckworth: Yeah, The other fun thing, and Dolores wrote about this in addition to the extraterrestrial experiences, is all of the other lives we've had as what we think of as inanimate objects trees, rocks, planets, stars, all kinds of those things, we've all also had lives as those kinds of things as well.
[00:39:50] Katische Haberfield: Yes. And I do remember when reading that from Dolores of newly, I was like, yeah, no. I just couldn't wrap my head around it [00:40:00] until I was shown how to communicate with the trees outside of my house and the rocks and get the messages. And I was like, oh, Until I experienced somebody who was a client who came, she said, the only way I can explain it to you is I was a comment, but I'm not. Comet, I'm the energy that is with a group of other conscious energies that form what you call a comet. And then now I'm like, every time you see something and that's, there's a comment, I'm like, Ooh,
[00:40:30] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:40:30] Katische Haberfield: in there. It's
[00:40:31] Katische Haberfield: just Mind. You're like,
[00:40:33] Holly Duckworth: yeah.
[00:40:34] Katische Haberfield: What, are they off doing?
[00:40:37] Katische Haberfield: It's just so fascinating.
[00:40:39] Holly Duckworth: Yeah, I had a client who regressed as a rock, a remarkably boring life and absolutely nothing happens and, dolores's process has us take the person in the other life through hypnosis, through the death process. And I'm like, oh, I'm [00:41:00] panicking the first time this happened. And I'm like, how does a rock die?
[00:41:03] Holly Duckworth: I don't know how to, I don't know how to make a rock die. And so I had to ask the Rock and I'm like, do you die? And they said at some point in time, I'm just finished with this. Experience and, the soul just leaves the rock. And, so then I ask as the rock has passed, I'm like look back on what, was the purpose of that life?
[00:41:24] Holly Duckworth: And the soul said to rest. I'm like, if you wanted a vacation, that is a perfect life to be a rock because ain't nothing gonna happen.
[00:41:34] Katische Haberfield: Yep. We are coming close to the top of the hour and I could talk to you forever, but what would you most like people to understand in terms of the theme of this series of infinite love and that your
[00:41:50] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:41:51] Katische Haberfield: self? What would you like to leave them as something to think about?
[00:41:55] Holly Duckworth: I do wanna point to the books and it's gonna get the, last book in the trilogy is, [00:42:00] I think, the most important when it comes to this idea of infinite love. So the first book in the trilogy, we've talked about finding purpose, surprising wisdom from the higher self, and that's this, what is my life purpose?
[00:42:12] Holly Duckworth: It's one of these four. While you're waiting on your QHHC session, you can read the book and figure it out. The second in the book is finding forgiveness, surprising, healing from the higher self, and that one's a how to on forgiveness. And it was just an observation about how often the higher self uses forgiveness for physical healing.
[00:42:36] Holly Duckworth: In session. So if you're having some sort of physical situation, you might stop and think about what you might be needing to forgive. And all forgiveness is ultimately self-forgiveness,
[00:42:48] Katische Haberfield: Yeah.
[00:42:49] Holly Duckworth: might be some of that. But the third in the trilogy and they're, and the higher self intended them to be read in that order, they grow.
[00:42:56] Holly Duckworth: Through a spiritual kind of growth thing, but it's [00:43:00] finding gratitude, surprising growth from the higher self, and it's this idea about how we live. Our resonant frequency, how we show up to our life, gratitude not being a list of things. You journal at the end of the day gratitude, not being blessing your food, that's all wonderful, but gratitude being the vibrational fre frequency that you choose to be okay in a state of gratitude, even in the depths of despair of grief.
[00:43:32] Holly Duckworth: Okay. What that does for soul growth, how we can amplify and accelerate our soul's growth with how we show up to this life, okay? The only point of the incarnation in the first place is for soul growth, right? So you can actually help your own soul growth with how you show up, and it's with gratitude.
[00:43:55] Holly Duckworth: And gratitude means. Infinite love for [00:44:00] every moment, right? Love infinitely deep and infinitely wide in every moment, even when I'm on my knees. Sobbing in grief. I can have gratitude for having had a love that grand in this life that I would grieve that deeply, right? So even it doesn't mean it's all kittens and, moonbeams and rainbows that we're grateful for, but that grateful in every moment, even in the deepest, darkest pain.
[00:44:37] Holly Duckworth: Is being in a state of infinite love, and then that presents your soul with an amplified and accelerated growth, which is the whole reason you're here.
[00:44:50] Katische Haberfield: Perfect.
[00:44:52] Holly Duckworth: Yeah.
[00:44:54] Katische Haberfield: I'm just gonna leave it at that. Just let that, everyone can, just let that sink in and I'll say thank you [00:45:00] so much for being with us today. I really, appreciate it
[00:45:04] Holly Duckworth: Thank you. It was a blast.
[00:45:07] Katische Haberfield: Namaste
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